The Skill of Trusting Yourself

The skill of Trusting Yourself is anything that can be learned that is a skill.

It can be mastered. There’s a lot of things about getting success that is skills based, it’s not gifts base and it’s not talent based, it’s Skills based. You can build skills if you dedicate the time and energy. But believe it or not, a lot of us don’t have the skill in trusting ourselves. Part of that is because we have little failures, things from our past, sometimes big things in our past that have now framed us for the impossibility or the feeling of impossibility that we can finally win.

A quote by Will Smith ”Fail Fast, Fail Often and Fail Forward” point is, most of us don’t have the skill of trusting our-self to fail our way to success. So we create this illusion in our mind that the only way we will get successful is every road is paved, every light is green, there is no obstacles, and no storms, so because that doesn’t exist, we tend to go inward and don’t take the appropriate and consistent action.

So I would like to enlighten you today that trusting yourself, to get where you need to go is an actual skill. It’s something you have to work on. You have to build. But you have to become much more

relational with your perspective of failure. In other words, you have to stop looking at failure as something to avoid, something to prevent, something to get rid of and something that will never happen again.

Why aren’t you taking the appropriate action in your business every day? Some may not know what

action to take. While others know exactly what action to take, and don’t do it consistently. It’s because at some level you don’t trust yourself.

I know this feeling all too well. Everyone has heard of Avon. Well I saw this opportunity and for 2 years, I busted my butt, barely made any money. I was spending more money on buying sample products than I was making. So I eventually quit that opportunity and about a year later, I got involved with a company call “Christmas Around the World”. Not sure if you’ve heard about it, I’m not even sure it’s still around but I was working a full time job and doing home parties in the evening and also raising 2 small girls. I had to initially buy the $200 kit which came with all the items to display and sell. Well, I had trouble getting people to book parties or buy anything and I was spending more and more time away from my daughters so I finally quit that opportunity too.

I could not handle people saying no to me and I thought I was a failure. I started to second guess myself, my believe system started to shatter and I stopped trusting my own ability to be successful. I stopped trusting the fact that I was doing the right thing, I wasn’t doing anything illegal, or unethical. The truth is, a lot of people don’t respect the digital marketing industry, the network marketing industry, it doesn’t really matter, it’s just the way it is.

But at the same, I came realize, it’s not just about business.

Anytime you make a declaration of any kind, people take sides. So here I am, a young mother of 2,

trying to make a go at a home based business and getting shot down that I can’t make it doing a home base business.

So it took me a long time to realize that I had stopped trusting myself because I had let the failures and the opinions of other people guide my life. I started avoiding or ducking situations that I knew would become stressful or challenging and I took the soft road.

I had a season in my life where I had a hard time looking in the mirror. I would get up, get dressed and I would go to the mirror and I had to look at myself but I didn’t see myself. I know that sounds crazy but I would just do what I had to do in the mirror and leave because I just couldn’t look at myself, I had stopped trusting myself.

So along the way as I continued to pursue my dream of being an entrepreneur, I was able to get some mentors in my life that help me to start growing again.

I knew I needed help Psychologically. So I started working on myself from the inside out and working on my self esteem, self confidence and my spiritual growth.

Here are 2 good reads “Psycho-Cybernetics” by Maxwell Maltz and the other one is “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself” by Shad Helmstette. These are old books but they are classics.

I finally got to a point where I have to trust myself, I have to trust myself fully as part of my success journey. I don’t have it all together, I will never have it all together, I will never know everything I need to know, I’m going to make mistakes, I’m going to fail, I’m going to disappoint some people, I’m going to have things happen to me that are not fair. But in the middle of everything, I had to learn to become my own best friend. I had to be able to look myself in the mirror and say, there is nobody that can take better care of you than I will. I promise you from now on, I’m going to give you my very best. I’m the safest place that you can ever go. (this is me talking to myself)

By rebuilding the trust within me, I learn to start taking chances again. I started looking at opportunities again and taking risks. Then in 2015, I was introduced to Internet Marketing. Tried a few programs and got burned or just didn't work out. So I started building relationships with other marketers and in 2017 I was introduced to this system that I’m in now.

I was divorced, my daughter just went through a bad break up and was now living with me along with her 2 small children and I was still working a regular job that barely paid the bills and I received notification in mid 2017 that I was going to be laid-off. Yikes!

I knew I had to give this Internet Marketing thing everything I got. I had that deep, committed, emotional, driven trust in myself. I trusted myself so much that I had risk everything I got to give this thing the best shot I could give it. I dedicated everything to this. I attended all the mastermind events the first year and soaked up as much information as I could.

The only way that you can really get there is to trust yourself. Steve Jobs trusted himself when everyone around him thought he was crazy.

So if you are struggling with belief, if you are struggling with whether or not you can succeed, struggling with the potential you have your hands on right here with Legendary Marketer, you are not alone. You are in great company. But what will separate you from everyone else who doesn’t make it? You take the appropriate amount of time, every single day, to stand in that mirror and look in the eyes of that person you see and you start building that trust. Start talking to that person in the mirror, start loving him/her, you start believing in their potential. Shut down everything else that has happened that didn’t work out, didn’t go your way and start believing in the invisible that’s in front of you.

Step into the invisible and lock arms, look in that mirror and say “if nobody else is going to trust you, I’m going to trust you”.

Don’t join the crowd of the haters. Don’t be your own hater.

Build the skill of trust.

It will transform your life and it will transform your business.

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