Self-Worth
- Audrey Cook
- Jul 16, 2018
- 5 min read
Think about this for a minute....Everything around us, somebody else has determined it’s worth. The phone that your on, the computer you use, the clothes on your back, the car that you drive, the house you sit in, the pictures on the wall, the shoes you wear, all of it, somebody else determine it’s worth and value and because somebody else determined its worth
, and we just pretty much accept that. But the one thing in our life that we don’t have to determine anyone else’s value, is ourselves.
The worth that we have for ourselves is determined by ourselves. Unfortunately, most of us like the furniture in our homes, like the clothes, and like the pictures on wall. We let somebody else or something else tell us or define for us what our personal worth is and then we operate accordingly.
I’m here to tell you that it’s called Self-Worth for a reason. It’s the one thing in your life that YOU get to determine it’s worth. YOU get to determine the value. It doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks because it’s Self-Worth.
Worth by definition means: the value equivalent to that of someone or something under consideration; the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated. So, because it’s Self-Worth, YOU get determine what YOU deserve. You get to determine what your value is and rate yourself.
And if that’s true, why are we continually, consistently, or even intentionally lowering our own self-worth to a place we no we can’t win from? YOU can’t win from a place of telling yourself you don’t deserve success. You can’t win from a place where you believe no one is going to listen to you or believe you.
So ask yourself, why are you doing that?
When you were a kid, and let’s just be real here. We are all messed up! It doesn’t matter whether you were raised in a home where Alcohol was an issue, drugs and abuse, or whether you were raised in a home where you got love and praise every day. We are all broken to some degree. Nobody was raised in a home that was perfect. There is some fracture that took place along the way, it doesn’t matter whether you were rich or poor, black or white. There have been people in your life that have said things or done things to you and people around you that have shaped the way you see yourself and when you look at that mirror in the morning, you see something that might not be at the highest level of value that it deserves.
Maybe you haven’t breath in and embraced the power that you have to determine your own worth.
Worth is not based upon condition. Worth is not based upon possession.
That is not how worth is determined.
Example: Get a picture of a $100 bill in your mind. Somebody decided to make that 100 bill worth $100 by putting in a serial number, that President and that number 100 on it. That was somebody else’s determination of what that piece of paper is worth. So, if you put a $1 bill next to $100 bill, it’s the exact same paper except the serial number is different, the President and it says $1 on it.
OK, now say you have a brand new hundred dollar bill and you drop it on the ground. You step on it, maybe crumble it up in your hand or even spilled coffee on it. Maybe you rip it or tear it in half. Nothing is different, it’s still worth the exact same amount as if it were fresh from the mint.
Some of us have lived lives where we have been stepped on by others and for whatever reason, we now think that our worth has been diminished because of that. Some have been thrown out as if you were nothing and you started to believe that.
Somebody has poured something on you and stained you like coffee stains. Stained your heart, stained your attitude, stained your emotions, and you started to believe you are worth - less.
Maybe somebody has ripped your life apart or something has ripped your life apart, or some failure has ripped your life apart. Maybe some set-back has ripped your life apart and now you have decided to believe that some how that makes you less worthy.
Listen Up: Your worth was set when you were born!
So no matter who decides to pour on you or tear something away from you, YOU were still as worthy before all that took place. The question is, will you start treating yourself as such?
You get to make that decision because it’s SELF-WORTH!
It’s not your friend’s version or your boss’ version or even your mother or father telling you what you are worth. It’s not the house you live in or the car you drive. It’s SELF-WORTH so I get to determine my Worth and that will always be the case.
Each and everyone of us are custom made with our own unique gifts.
There is only one made just like you!
You need to believe in yourself and recognize your Self-Worth and define who you are.
If you knew your self-worth you would leave that relationship that tears you up.
If you knew your self-worth you would give up that alcohol.
If you knew your self-worth you would leave that job you hate.
Present yourself as a 100 dollar bill, metaphorically speaking.
Our biggest problem is our current condition or current state forces us to believe something about our Self-Worth that IS NOT TRUE.
Your bank Account balance doesn’t equal your Self-Worth so stop telling yourself that.
Stop being addicted to someone else validating your Self-Worth.
It is nobody else fault that you believe what you believe about YOU.
Take ownership of the Worth you give Yourself.
Self-Esteem is about respect. What is it about yourself you don’t respect?
Most likely you allowed someone else to define it. This is about returning to self. Return to the perspective about yourself that you should have had from the beginning before all these things happen to you. Before all these people happen to you.
Stand tall in who you are!
Doesn’t matter how dark or light you are, how fat or skinny, tall or short, it doesn’t really matter to anybody else but YOU.
Operate from a stronger place and you will find more people will be attracted to you because you believe in YOU more.
When you do, opportunities seem to come out of nowhere, money seems to show up and you get more love because you love yourself more.
Stop with the Negative talk and start telling yourself YOU are worth it, because YOU are!
It all starts with what You say about Yourself.
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