How to thrive through your storms.
- Audrey Cook
- Jun 19, 2018
- 4 min read
Whether its strained relationships, poor finances, health issues, or stress there's ways to thrive in spite of these obstacles.
Your childhood doesn’t have to define you but you need to understand or find out what is defining you and then get a new definition of what it is and you can’t do that on your own.
Thriving through your storms and your obstacles and your trauma begins with somebody knowing what happen to you, in a place that’s safe and where you can be brutally honest and then secondly, being provided with the tools and information that can empower you so that you can keep going and not be define by your trauma, not be define by your childhood stuff because we all have it.
Sometimes we are very disrespectful to ourselves for not being open to that type of support.
Some of us grow up and were taught, not to tell people that kind of stuff, the dirty secrets we grew up with or tell people our business. We were taught to keep it to yourself and not tell anyone.
And all of that is a trap. It’s a set-up for you not to be able to get access to what you need.
One thing I have learned is that you don’t need to be in crisis to go see a therapist, just like you don’t need to be sick to go see a doctor.
So if you know it’s ok to see a doctor to keep your physical body well, why don’t you do it for the mind because your emotions need maintenance too. Or maybe you need to figure out how you can be treated for things (emotional) that you are carrying around with you.
Are you using the excuse that it’s too expensive to see a therapist? Then maybe you should look at all the other things you spend money on and figure out a way to cut back and spend that money on your emotional maintenance.
So if you know there is something going on with you, whether it’s on the surface and you know exactly what it is or the emotional environment that you live in and you wonder why do I feel this way. Why do I think this way? Why do I act this way? You cannot handle that on your own. You will have to find somebody in order to start the process of therapeutic healing.
Let me tear down an obstacle for you.
If your desire is freedom, to get that thorn out of you, then you need to search or locate someone that can be that person for you. Sometimes you may have to go to 2 or 3 therapists but once you find the right one, it can change your life.
Go into your mind and see your heart. I’m talking about if you had an x-ray vision, you could go in and see your heart. This x-ray is just not showing you the material heart, this x-ray is showing the invisible splinters in your heart. They are not real splinters but this particular x-ray machine is able to show you the heart damage. I’m not talking about heart disease, I’m talking about like my childhood splinters.
Some of the splinters are big and some are small.
Some of the splinters are thin and some are thick and my heart is splintered up.
Here’s an analogy. When ever you get a splinter, it hurts going in and it also hurts coming out because you have to dig for it. But once it’s out, the spot where it was, is still going to hurt for awhile. But now that the splinter is out, there’s an opportunity for real healing to take place.
We all have splinters!
Some people may have bigger and harder splinters than others. You don’t want to push the splinters down so deep or bury them so you can just function. When you do this, you are just going through life navigating here and there but never really free to be just YOU. So pushing things down just so you can function, to help move you along, you are never really navigating life as yourself and Free to be You!
So pushing down things to function, will make you barely function.
So if you are ready to stop making excuses and sitting in the current version of you then I challenge you or want you to at least consider that there is enough changing that can take place to become the version of You that You want to be.
Sometimes you will never know how much changing you will have to go through to become the true You.
All you have to do is pick a spot and start cleaning up the mess but you should bring some expert with you to help.
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